Tuesday, November 6, 2018
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Monday, October 8, 2018
Thursday, October 4, 2018
- Are you tired of looking in the mirror and not being happy to be there?
- Are you worn out by the negativity in your life?
- Are you done with feeling like a doormat?
- Do you feel like you give so much and get little in return?
- Do you feel depleted and used?
- Do you question if your "too nice", "too trusting", or "love too much"?
- Are you ready to transform into the best version of you that you can be?
- Are you ready to create solid and healthy personal boundaries?
- Are you ready to put healthy energy into your relationships, career, and causes?
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Thursday, September 20, 2018
Tuesday, May 22, 2018
Tuesday, May 15, 2018
I’m going to start focusing my attention on the choices I’m making to guarantee they are aligned with the life I want. I’m done beating myself up. I’ve had it. I can’t take my own abuse anymore. I don’t deserve it. When I look in the mirror, I will see a person who is living their life the best they can. I would be happy to see anyone I love doing that, so I need to do that for me.
Thursday, May 10, 2018
Monday, May 7, 2018
To Emotional, Mental, and/or PhysicalAbusers:
Your pain towards yourselves is very clear. If you were healthy and happy individuals you wouldn't feel the need to tear someone else down. This is not just to men or women in romantic relationships. This is to the bosses, co-workers, friends, parents, sons, and/or daughters who are out there intentionally hurting others.
In my days of being in an abusive relationship, I became one of you. I called names and used manipulative cunning tools to get my way or to try to one up my abuser. I couldn't stand the words coming out of my mouth. I couldn't stand the thoughts going through my head.They were so against my innermost nature. The truth is I hated myself. That is the way I became you. My shame, guilt and lack of self-worth made me feel like there was no other way to escape from my abusers horrible attacks.
I believe that people can change, because I've been around to see too many people who have for better or for worse. One can't be true without the other. However, I know a great deal of abusers who choose not to change. If you blame ANYONE else for any of your horrible actions, you will not change for the better.
The people receiving your emotional, mental, or physical beatings aren't MAKING you do ANYTHING! Your actions, reactions, and feelings are on YOU! If you were a happy and healthy person, you would project that to the world. You can't say you are healthy then tear someone else down in the same breath. If you want to change you have to take a deep hard look at yourself. You have to be honest about how your behavior is affecting your view. Everything you say about someone else is a direct reflection the person you really are. Your darkness shines through in your words. Healthy people don't intentionally hurt others.
I accepted abuse for way too long because I hated myself. My abuser couldn't treat me worse than I treated myself. For every insult I was given I could match it with three. I couldn't get out until I saw my own worth. I had to truly believe that I deserved better than the treatment I was getting. When there was no question about my worth, I left. I will not match your energy ever again. You words don't have a negative effect on me anymore because I know they aren't true. I know I am lovable and deserve to feel love. Not a boss, co-worker, partner, or family member will tear down who I am. Most of all, I will not tear down who I am.
I forgave the abusers in my life, but the most important person I forgave is myself. I treated myself horribly. I let how I felt about myself hurt other people I love. That apology was crucial, because without forgiving myself I might have let another one of you affect my inner well-being. I might have went down the shame cycle again doing things that weren't in the best interests of myself, family, friends, and community. As long as I continue to love myself, your words and actions will only do you harm.
My goal is to stay healthy and happy so that I will not find my way back to another person like you or become you again. If I see you out there abusing others, I will call you out. I won't do this to shame you, but in hopes that one day you will see yourself in the eyes of your victims and decide to be better.
Thank you for showing me how important it is to love myself and not believe other people's opinions of me. Anything I want others to feel about me, I have to feel for myself first. Your actions forced me to move and make the changes I needed in order to have a life I'm proud to be living.
With Love and Gratitude,
A Better Me
Rachael Wolff ©2018
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